r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/wakaflockabow • Mar 02 '23
Dating in 2023 be like. Country Club Thread
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u/johnsom3 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Had a friend in college who moved like that. He would be cupcaking on the phone for hours talking up how much he cared for them and things like that. Then when he hung up the phone he would say shit like " damn that girl sweats me".
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u/TheVermonster Mar 02 '23
I had a similar friend. He would ditch us to hang out with his girl, or just straight up no-show when we expected him. Whenever he got drunk he would go outside and talk to her on the phone for as long as she would put up with it. He took certain classes so he would be in the same area and free at the same time as her. He worked at the campus computer store and when she got a job at the book store across the hall he complained that she was "suffocating him" and he couldn't deal with her "not giving him personal time".
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u/cake-for-breakfast ☑️ Mar 03 '23
I wanted to also point out that some very insecure people do this with friendships. They will, one-on-one, be really supportive and friendly with you, but in public will act more standoffish and pretend as if you're following them or are pulled towards them. It gives heavily needy vibes.
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u/the_neverdoctor ☑️ Mar 02 '23
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u/the_neverdoctor ☑️ Mar 03 '23
Speaking of which…the niggacity of having a bad faith troll report that comment is insane.
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u/bzboy ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Right. Slow your roll, sis
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u/MostDopeBlackGuy Mar 02 '23
Lol wut?
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u/YizWasHere ☑️ Mar 02 '23
I read this three times and I still genuinely have no earthly idea what is going on in this comment lmao
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u/SardonicVampire ☑️ Mar 02 '23
It sounds like he saying that he's terrified of being cheated on/misused by a woman because he knows that has happened before to others.
So he is afraid to commit in any form. But then someone like this tweet shows him exactly what he has been telling himself, and it sounds fucking stupid.
And so now he realizes what women have had to sit and hear come out his mouth. And apparently he said this shit to Tori and is sorry.
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u/tacopower69 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
He's terrified of commitment because he has first hand experience with girls in committed relationships casually cheating on their SO so he ends up in situations like that described in the OP where he really likes the girl and means everything he's saying to her but is still fucking with other girls. He realizes however that sometimes you have to commit to an exclusive relationship and open yourself up to heart break because playing with women's feelings like that won't make him happy. Then he apologizes to Tori.
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u/breezyfye Mar 02 '23
Just text them fam, sound like you need a release
Or write a letter to them and burn it, if you can’t muster up the will to text them
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u/ravenwillowofbimbery ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Dude, this is word soup. Or, perhaps, you shoulda just sent this to Tori. 😐
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u/HimEatLotsOfFishEggs ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Sir, this is the Down-Bad-Police. I’m gonna have to take you in for questioning.
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u/LakerBlue ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Unironically…if the nigga ain’t claiming you despite y’all doing all that/he says all of that, then you maybe wasting your time, sis.
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u/ArizonaRon98 Mar 02 '23
You really gonna tell me just because we live together, are engaged, and text each other potential baby names you think we’re serious? Slow down girl gah damn
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u/PMmeurdixout4harambe ☑️ Mar 02 '23
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u/Deathstriker88 Mar 02 '23
I like how Bron had to get his purse first, then just bounced lol.
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u/IndigoGanache Mar 02 '23
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u/srkaficionado ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Is this really the best gif considering her situation?
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u/Coldtoes2023 Mar 02 '23
What situation? She’s a billionaire. He’s the one who should be waiting for a ring.
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u/srkaficionado ☑️ Mar 02 '23
😁. Fair enough. And maybe she’s smart about it and is ok with the status quo. She got her money, the man, the kids and what else is there?
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u/radiolabel Mar 02 '23
Nah, she don’t want a gold digger or someone to take half if they separate
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u/Universe789 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Yes, because their situation doesn't match this tweet, as far as I'm aware.
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u/NineteenAD9 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Definitely trolling
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u/wakaflockabow Mar 02 '23
It's sarcasm but it's definitely people I know in situations like this which makes it sad lmfao
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u/LegallyIllegal01 Mar 02 '23
Not sarcasm if I can name like 10 couples off the jump I know like this
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u/Bubbly_Satisfaction2 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
I can name 7 people that I know, which is absolutely sad.
I, sometimes, want to grab them by the shoulders and scream “STOP BEING STUPID AND DESPERATE!!!” into their faces.
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u/Noname_acc Mar 02 '23
I just can't understand this kinda thing once you've got kids together. That shit is a waaaay bigger commitment than being married. At that point you're just declining tax benefits.
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u/cruzweb Mar 02 '23
I remember there was a thing a few years ago, idk if it was on twitter or not but it was like "ladies, if your man never actually asked you to be his girlfriend, go ask him what you guys are and report back the results. The replies were all things like "We've been dating for 7 years and got 2 kids together, when I asked him what we are he just said 'ooh we're cool'".
At the end of the day, relationships should be explicit. You should know exactly what's going on, talk about it and agree to it. Don't just hang around each other and assume you're on the same page.
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u/Solo_Fisticuffs ☑️Sunshine ☀️ Mar 02 '23
that's why i tell everyone if i don't explicitly tell them what we are then we friends/fwb at most (mostly dudes because they're the ones who struggle with this more often for some reason) problem is my version of friendship id do more than regular folk
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u/cruzweb Mar 02 '23
me too. Don't matter how many times you say "this is just what this is" people hear what they want.
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u/Solo_Fisticuffs ☑️Sunshine ☀️ Mar 02 '23
people believe things when it fits their lens. i dont fit most people's lenses so im just talkin to brick walls constantly. lost quite a few platonic friends that way
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u/luxii4 Mar 02 '23
I mean it’s the Nick Cannon move except you only get him once every two weeks instead of every other day.
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u/vendetta2115 Mar 02 '23
More like sarcasm than trolling, I don’t think he expects people to take this post seriously.
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Just because I got my car leased in ya name doesn't mean we together
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u/m0d3r4t3m4th Mar 02 '23
I don't have a girlfriend, I just know a girl who would be really mad if she heard me say that. - Mitch Hedberg
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u/KushQueen1992 Mar 02 '23
This is why I highly encourage bringing mfs to court for child support. Just stupid af
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u/wakaflockabow Mar 02 '23
It's true. My cousin been "with" her baby daddy 25 years and got nothing out of it. 0 rings, 3 kids, 1 kid by a side chick and a title of baby momma.
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u/girlfriendpleaser ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Right? Best to throw it all away unless 0 rings turn to 1 ring soon.
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u/wakaflockabow Mar 02 '23
He was in the NBA lol it ain't gone turn into one soon.
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u/PM_FORBUTTSTUFF Mar 02 '23
She couldn’t have turned all that into a fat child support check?
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u/wakaflockabow Mar 02 '23
She probably did but I'm dating to marry not to get a child support check 😭
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u/misakiandou ☑️ Mar 02 '23
I had an Uncle who did this with his partner/baby momma....Never married, had kids with her, bought a house...then sadly when he passed...There were HUGE issues legally and financially for her and the kids staying there since the house was in his name and she isn't married to him, he didn't have money or insurance for his funeral expenses and no life insurance. Whole ass family had to find a new home, figure it out on their own all while grieving their loss.
Marriage is a legal thing that protects your family in the tragic event that something happens to you or your spouse...like be safe and protect your family...if you are worried your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner/whoever you are with would try to pull one over on you or divorce you and take your shit either get a prenup or they ain't the one.
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u/Beddybye ☑️ Mar 02 '23
"It'S JuSt a piECe OF paPeR!"
No, it's far from that and I'm tired of seeing that nonsense. You are 100% correct...
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u/srkaficionado ☑️ Mar 02 '23
So, unpopular take: is this man financially well off? Has substantial assets for those kids he keeps having?
Also, are the kids grown because why would she still stay? Although depending on the state, she can claim common law marriage, leave and sue him for support/alimony/ the equivalent in a common law marriage.
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u/PeteyPorkchops Mar 02 '23
Or happily proclaim “but he’s sleeping in my bed at night” like it makes it any better.
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u/Beddybye ☑️ Mar 02 '23
but he’s sleeping in my bed at night”
...and giving you super herpes, too. Dummy lol.
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u/butidktho_ Mar 02 '23
the funniest shit is when people act like this is new lol this is not a 2023 issue
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u/Laura_Lye Mar 02 '23
Yeah, sadly I got played this way by a man all the way back in 2016.
Thankfully I don’t need to learn the same lesson twice. Now it’s “are we exclusive?” before sex and “are we official?” before a mfer meets anyone I know or I make any changes to my regular business for him.
Won’t stop a man doing you wrong, but will make it clear that he’s doing wrong if he does.
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u/Beddybye ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Girl...try 2004.
Learned my lesson HARD. Never again.
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u/Xkiwigirl Mar 02 '23
Try 1989.
Sick of people thinking this is new. People have always sucked. I'd argue that it was worse in the past when divorce and breakups were considered to be way more shameful (or impossible, in some situations)
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u/badbatch ☑ Mar 03 '23
Yup. My aunt had a boyfriend and they were together for years. Got a house and everything. He wouldn't marry her but bought her this ring that looked like an engagement ring. This was back in the early 90s. There have always been people like this.
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u/Gary_FucKing Mar 02 '23
Every year some kid turns 18 and announces to the world how much worse dating is compared to the past.
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u/jsmithers945 Mar 02 '23
We play video games, grew up together, finish each others jokes, have inside jokes, argue over dumb shit, always got each others backs but that doesn’t mean we are best friends.
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u/OohYeahOrADragon ☑️ Mar 03 '23
Ngl, one time a partner of mine said “I think your best friend called” and I was like “I have a best friend?” And it was then I realized that they were talking about the friend who I hung out with almost everyday with since second grade. It was just so normal that I didn’t even realize lol
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u/Cutieq85 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
…all the years I wasted thinking dying single was a bad thing.
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u/Pinksamuraiiiii Mar 02 '23
Thank god I found my partner. In the past I’ve dealt with guys try to live the ‘boyfriend experience’ without wanting to be ‘labeled’ LOL.
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u/xblueborderz ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Ughh this happened to me this passed summer. Cut him off once I realized he was getting to have his cake and eat it too 🙄
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u/Affectionate_Pay1487 Mar 02 '23
Always find this type of dude oscillating in his garage if she steps out with a different fruit
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u/1st_year_at_34 Mar 02 '23
Everytime I think I am ready to date, the universe throws things like this on my timeline.
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u/Jump4lyfe ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Dang, minus the kids, I feel like this me. Yikes, why am I allowing this???
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u/ILoveCheetos85 Mar 02 '23
My now husband was on this bs back in 2016 LOL
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u/Jump4lyfe ☑️ Mar 02 '23
What knocked some sense into his head?
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u/ILoveCheetos85 Mar 02 '23
I said okay and dumped him!
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u/sikagoon7 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Honestly that's what some guys need.
I got in an argument about something I can't remember with my girlfriend at the time and we went to our dorms. Didn't talk for a couple days. I remember that heavy empty hole in my chest vividly.
Married her 7 years later.
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u/OohYeahOrADragon ☑️ Mar 03 '23 edited Mar 03 '23
7 years later
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u/e92ftw ☑️ Mar 02 '23
I NEEEVVER go anywhere, I met this chick, we date for like 2mos, then we go away for 5 days to Cancún, we’ve been doing all the above, adding she told me what kinda ring she into… ain’t nobody moving thaaat fast, but anyway, we get back and she posts all them corny pics like she was on vacay with a camera man.
She tells me it’s too soon to be posting a nigga on her social and I need to chill, it’s too soon. 🤔🙄😤 tf?
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u/chunli99 ☑️ Mar 03 '23
She tells me it’s too soon to be posting a nigga on her social and I need to chill, it’s too soon. 🤔🙄😤 tf?
In the immortal words of Cardi B:
“If ain't no ring on my finger, you ain't goin' on my 'Gram”
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u/Dazzling-Ad-4489 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
He wants to stay in the trial period; but don't realize he forgot to cancel his 7 day premium free trial.🤦🏾♂️
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u/cgtdream ☑️ Mar 02 '23
This dude should get with the chick from yesterday, who thought Michael B. Jordan was "too good of a dude".
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u/Antique_Extension_69 Mar 02 '23
Niggas need to get their lives together. We need a solution. Anybody?….
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u/xthurArx ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Ppl saying i love you to someone they aren’t dating, is super cringe to me. Its worse that people accept that. Good sex doesn’t equal relationship or feelings.
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u/clcole6427 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
My mom “when you going to marry her?” Me “im not marrying noone with kids.” My mom “…but…its your kid” Me “No”
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u/rickjamesia Mar 02 '23
I’m ace (or close to it), but watching people around me for decades, this is hilarious. It will be men and women sometimes too, straight, gay, bi, doesn’t matter. People be out here living together for four years and can’t say they’re in a committed relationship. I’m like “Why you mfs doing this to each other?”
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u/devilsephiroth ☑️ Mar 02 '23
This shit hurt so much i met this boy, he was so damn fine i took him out to dinner to a fine restaurant, paid for everything, he slept over my house, we had bomb ass sex he was calling me daddy and everything. He was sexy, calling me sexy, i even drove him to work on the way to work i mean everything was just right.
I fucked up and caught feelings tho... Apparently that wasn't what he was looking for....
WHAT THE FUCK THEN WAS THE END GOAL BRUH? Was you just a hoe then?
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u/sikagoon7 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Wait I'm confused. Do you identify as a dude?
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u/devilsephiroth ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Reddit always assumes everyone's a dude until the narrative suits them.
Make up your mind Reddit.
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u/OrdainedFury ☑️ Mar 02 '23
This always reminds me of that Bow Wow tweet where he essentially says the same thing lol
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u/MassiveConcern BHM Donor Mar 02 '23
I can't even... I'm so glad I'm not trying to date anyone anymore, this environment is just way too nuanced for me.
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u/iamcarlbarker ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Then when your ex feels a type of way and expresses frustration or confusion, y'all say "they're crazy" or somwthing else to diminish how misleading and confusing all those actions are. It takes 2 but a lot of people leverage sex and "I love you"s as a way to mislead people with more relationship oriented goals. Anecdotal, but I have seen it happen way too much.
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u/Tiny_Celebration_591 ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Ummm, what does it mean then cause if you going raw it needs to be with one person.
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u/JimothyClegane ☑️ Mar 02 '23
Whenever I see references to the perils of modern dating, I thank God for putting my wife & I in each other's lives at a young age.
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u/peterpeterpeterrr ☑️ Mar 03 '23
I mean.............we made the word/phrase situationship for a reason. This just sounds like a situationship. This is kind of just a regular day for people like future and Pete Davidson.
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u/Savage_Oreo ☑️ Mar 02 '23 •
Nigga….